Ok guys. I had a huge AHA when I went to a women’s conference at the beginning of January 2020. When I went to this particular conference I was a bit, Meh… I don’t know why I’m here or what I’ll get out of but I was there with my bestie and my daughters so I knew it would be great just because of that.
On day 2 of the conference this brilliant, stunning woman, Amy Porterfield, who has created a multi-million dollar business came out to talk on stage with the host, Rachel Hollis.
Now, I was totally crushing on Amy. She’s a successful business women with a huge presence. She’s smart, articulate, tall, and gorgeous.
Well, she rocked my world because she sat on stage talking about how she thinks about her weight and how that has limited her in life. How she has a hard time talking in front of groups because she’s worried about her looks. How she tries to be the smallest person in the room. WHAT in the actual heck! Why would she do that!?
She's literally Perfect in my eyes! 😍😍😍
And then BAM!
I was like, I am totally doing that in my life. I’ve spent my whole life trying to be smaller. Even when I was so skinny my bones stuck out, I thought I was so big. I just wanted to be smaller in every way.
So i've been trying to shrink myself, Not just in size, but energetically too. So understand, this is not about weight. It’s about our thoughts about ourselves. I can still hear my step dad say, “You’d be so pretty if you just lost some weight.” This was over 30 years ago! Yet I don't remember most of the compliments i've received over the years.
I’ve spent years on self love and self acceptance, and I’ve come soooo far, so this moment was devastating (ugh) & liberating (yasss) to me because I realized I was still trying to make myself small. And because of this I am limiting myself in business, in relationships, in freakin life all together!
In that moment I made a choice because you know, everything is a choice. I made a choice to BE BIG!
By the way, Big means impactful, influential, inspirational, individualistic, irresistible, Innovative, Imaginative, Intuitive, Informed, Indestructible, and so much more!
Why all the I’s?
Because I matter!
And so do you! So fill in your own blank, Be __________ Girl or Guy!
Guys, we can literally never have the results we want in life when we are diminishing who we are.
Own it, be proud, stop hiding, BE BIG!
PS - here's Amy's talk if you'd like to listen to it: